Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Life after NYSC and facing depression by Evans binan








https://www.satmakdaparsblog.info/home/life-after-nysc-and-depression-living-in-our-present-day-realities-by-evans-binan


Friday, February 2, 2018

The Real Benefits of Women’s Resistance in an Uncertain Time

Karen McCann's book 'Women of the American Resistance: You Are the One We Have Been Waiting For,' shines a light on the variety and creativity of activism.

By Tobey Hiller -  January 17, 2018
The Real Benefits of Women's Resistance in an Uncertain Time (Adobe Stock)
Women of the American Resistance is about how to wake up on this dark morning in our country’s political life and take the future of our democracy back along with our own sense of well-being and purpose.

If you feel daily buffeted by a blizzard of news bites and a thicket of tweets, if you wonder what to do or if you feel helpless, this book is for you.

If you’ve been puzzling over where to turn, how to start, what to do, how to take effective action, what would fit for you, in these politically intense times, this is the book for you. If you’ve looked at the political scene and wondered whether you’ve wandered somehow into a strange Mad Hatter’s tea party or an Orwellian novel and feel trapped, read this.

This book is scary, thrilling, and energizing—just like our times. Vividly written, efficiently organized in short but well-researched and pithy sections, this is a book for everyone who needs both facts and inspiration to get themselves started or keep themselves going in these chaotic, often dispiriting times.

The book covers a broad territory of various issues and historical precedents with verve and clarity. And, it’s funny, to boot! Smart! And emotionally sound—because humor is part of what keeps us going in times of trouble and crisis. The book is lively and enlivening, despite the fact that McCann is honest about the many difficult, even daunting, tasks we face. The humor, the punch, and muscle of the writing will keep you reading. Enlarge your store of ideas. And remind you of what we all need right now to make our futures livable (and enjoyable, too): working together.

At one point, McCann talks about kitchen-table gatherings and how supportive they are; reading this book is a bit like getting together with a good friend—or more than one, sitting down at a table and beginning to feel, because of the conversation, the shared energy, the laughter, and the joint intention that we’re becoming part of a community on the move, that with these friends on board, we’re ready to move the world. Ready to pick up our corner of the sky.

Most of all, this book is an essential guidebook to activism, to well-being in a trying world, to the art and practice of becoming part of the solution, to the pleasures and comforts of community, and to getting on the move.



The health benefits of activism
The writer and activist Grace Paley says,

“To hope is to act.”

I am a writer and retired MFT (Marriage Family Therapist) and Certified Psychodramatist. It is widely known and written about in psychology and sociology that connection to a community, membership in groups, and certain forms of activism contribute to emotional health and mitigate against depression. The positive psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi says, “…no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.”1

Cooperative groups solve a wide variety of problems, from the numerical to the social, better than even the most intelligent and creative individuals working alone.2,3 Further, research has shown that both volunteerism and activism have beneficial effects on well-being and emotional balance.

“Going on marches, signing petitions, staging rallies and other political activism could actually improve your health and general well-being.”4

Activism and volunteering have somewhat different effects, according to Megan Glister, but both increase an individual’s sense of belonging and forge community ties that support individual and group strength and purpose.5 Many of the outstanding activists of the world—Thich Nat Hahn, for instance—have written on the maintenance of balance and the link between happiness or well-being and an activist life, where the sense of the importance of the individual’s relations to others and to the world becomes daily and natural.6

We all conceive of ourselves in particular ways. How you use your own concept of who you are in the world, how you grow and change to make the most of your own particular nature and attributes, is an indicator both of the ability to meet developmental challenges and of the ability to survive, even thrive, in a world that, despite our American predilection for romantic thought, can be a rough place.

Constructive, collaborative, and positive psychologies concentrate on bringing out an individual’s assets and resources to solve presenting problems. This aspect of the use of self, the mining and use of your own resources (and I saw this again and again in my 35 years of practice as a therapist), helps people to be resourceful and successful in their own ways in a world that is now—and perhaps always has been—difficult to negotiate. So finding a way to be active on the side you want—you really want—to win is likely to, to put it simply, make you feel much better.

It’s an old idea, but it has stayed evergreen: Even Aristotle says that happiness resides in virtuous activity. Though he may not have been thinking that the activity would be resisting a guy with dyed yellow hair and a red cap, and he knew nothing about positive psychology, he was pointing right at the target.



The variety and creativity of activism
McCann highlights that we need the kind of energetic support and vigor that supports local—and maybe even global—change. Karen has recorded interviews with women all over the U.S. doing inspiring work. She’s literally done the legwork. She tells vivid stories; she has talked to the people whose stories they are. It’s personal and real. She knows it’s different strokes for different folks, so her descriptions and suggestions cover a wide variety of resistance methods.

She investigates tyranny and its practices. One of her sections details movements all over the world and across recent history in which group actions, even group actions like singing forbidden songs, have brought down oppressive regimes. She discusses the issues and the grassroots advocacy going on in many areas of our national life (i.e., racism, civil rights, the experiences of non-white and non-Christian folk, the work of LGBTQ and disabled communities, women’s rights, workers’ rights, the environment and climate change) as well as the practical and operative mechanics of making change happen (i.e., raising money, gathering advocates, methods, including peaceful protest, the ABC’s of action).

Apparently, the tipping point for change comes at some moment where enough of us (and there is an actual percentage) stand up and make noise, where enough of us have diversified into all kinds of ways and byways so that a shift, something new, begins to happen. Karen gives example after example where these doors to change are open. It’s very heartening.

Another way this book is important to me is its emphasis on the creativity of activism. Throughout history, artists have been seminal voices in making important cultural and political change happen. Although Thoreau secluded himself at Walden Pond, he was also an abolitionist who went to jail for refusal to pay a poll tax that supported the extension of slavery into new territories, and his tract on Walden Pond and on living close to nature has become one of the progenitors of the movement to protect our environment.

As an artist and writer, I believe that creativity is an essential ingredient for effective change in individuals, and for societies. Art, like science, is an exploration, a path of discovery. Art is the soul of successful activism. Karen’s book has plenty of artfulness. The writing is fresh, muscular, witty. She includes links to her blogs, which have many wonderful visuals. The format is smart, inventive, approachable, and highly useful—you can find what you need to know quickly, and there are many roadways toward action to take, with excellent signage.



Art can be a warning and a celebration
Art can be a warning (think Orwell, 1984, or Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale) and a celebration (the poems of Gerard Manley Hopkins or Mary Oliver) or both (let’s say Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison or Emily Dickinson‘s vast trove of poems). And art, as a historical record, reminds us and keeps the erasures and hypocrisies of political life from being effective (Elena Ferrante’s Neapolitan trilogy, any book by James Baldwin, Ta-Nehisi Coates, Zadie Smith).

Obviously, these are only a few examples of a vast store. If you’re looking for inspiration, it’s there—and that’s another reason Karen’s book is so good. Her own broad knowledge of literature and history, her many travels and vivid allusions to artists, thinkers, writers, activists, street artists, people whose own lives are, in themselves, statements of artistic and creative exploration (check out the Museum of Propaganda in San Rafael, just one example of so many!) are a testament to the interweaving of creativity and action for awakening and positive change.



It’s a book about life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness
Women of the American Resistance is about life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness (now where have I heard that phrase?), about what we women, whoever we are, can do to make our world better and safer and more democratic—this world, the one so many of us feel is on the cusp of changes we must make our own.

Being a woman and challenging the status quo has always been a formidable task. Holding up the world (which means doing what needs to be done, whether it’s laundry or leading marches) while changing it requires fortitude—which, it seems, given what Karen has unearthed about our many successes in the past, we have! We are the ones we’ve been waiting for, as Karen McCann says.

Karen’s primer on how and where and what—which somehow manages to be both exhaustive and un-boring at the same time—will make us stronger, savvier, and more efficient in doing what needs to be done. Get this book. Read it. Tell others about it. Don’t wait. It’s a blueprint we all need.

Here’s what the great 18th century activist for the equality of women, Mary Wollstonecraft, said:

“The beginning is always today.”

Thursday, January 25, 2018

Why Parents Don’t Talk to their Children about Sex!!!!!!!!!!

There are a number of reasons why parents don't talk to their children about sex that have nothing to do with the children but are related to the parent’s “stuff.”

So why don’t parents talk to their children about sex?
1. Parents don’t know enough about sex themselves.
If you are a parent, obviously, you know enough about sex to have created a child. Even though we may be having sex, we might not know enough about it to teach healthy sexuality to a child. Most parents know the basic biology of human sexuality. We know the names of male and female anatomical parts. We know the basics of conception—the fertilization of the egg by the sperm. After these basics, there is a huge lack of knowledge. Many parents do not have adequate knowledge of sexually transmitted infections or HIV. Discussing disease transmission is a big part of discussing healthy sexuality with a child that moves beyond the biological mechanics of sex.



Another aspect of teaching healthy sexuality is teaching about healthy relationships. Teaching children about consent, healthy communication, partnership, intimacy, etc. are all part of teaching healthy sexuality. We also teach children through modeling of behavior. If parents are not talking about healthy relationships with their children and are modeling dysfunction (i.e., emotional or physical abuse, disconnection, avoidance, etc.), they are actually teaching unhealthy sexuality to their children.

2. Parents think their children will learn about healthy sexuality in school.
Many parents do not talk to their children about sex and sexuality because they think that the topic is taught to their children in school. While some schools may teach human sexuality, how and what they teach is highly variable and depends on the school district in which the family lives. According to the National Conference of State Legislators, only 22 states in the United States mandate teaching at least some sexual education in schools. Even if you live in a state where sex education is mandated, do you know what they are teaching? Only 19 states require that the information taught in sex education classes is medically accurate. This fact was mind blowing to me when I read it.

Many parents also do not get involved or ask about the information being taught to their children in sex education to find out, first, what is being taught and, second, if the information is accurate. Many schools that do provide curriculum on sex education do not teach about healthy relationships nor do they teach about sex in the digital age, skipping topics such as online pornography and sexting. If you are relying on the school to teach your children about sex, they may be getting no information, misinformation, or minimal information.

3. Parents are in denial
Denial is one of the biggest issues that I come across preventing parents from talking to their children. If a parent is in denial about what their child is doing sexually or what they have seen online, they are not going to even be thinking about my first two points. If you think that your 15-year-old child has not seen pornography online, you are quite simply wrong. The average age of first exposure to online pornography is between 10 and 11 years old. This means that if you have not had proactive talks with your child by this age, you have missed the boat.

Thinking that your sweet Johnny has never seen online pornography is denial in its truest form. Your child’s exposure to online pornography is not a judgment of them or a statement of character. It is not a reflection of your parenting skills either. It is likely a statement of fact. This does not mean that your child is actively seeking out the imagery or is a frequent user of pornography, but simply that he or she has seen it. If they have seen it, they may have questions about it or they may have confused feelings which a discussion with their parent might help them sort out.



What can parents do?
What we do know from the research is that kids do want more education about sex and relationships. They even want that information to come from their parents. So what can parents do?

Get your head out of the sand. If you are reading this, you have children who are digital natives and likely a part of the “Generation App.” Come to grips with the fact that your kids are exposed to digital sexuality on a daily basis. Get educated about what apps they use and how they are exposed to sexuality on each of these apps. Is it imagery, chatting, social networks, pornography sites? The best way to find out what your child is doing in the digital world is to actually talk to them about their digital life. Get interested and get involved.
Get some education yourself. Head to the bookstore and peruse the selection of books on sex education. There are great resources out there to refresh your knowledge of human sexuality. Read up on healthy relationships. Talk to your child from the get-go about healthy concepts such as communication, consent, and intimacy. Most of all, do your best to model a healthy relationship in your own behavior. I also highly recommend talking to the educators in your child’s school system about their sex education program. Know what your child is being taught in school as well as what they are not being taught. It is up to you to supplement and improve that education.
Talk to your child. Talk to them often. Accept that these conversations are going to be awkward at first. They will get easier. Talk to them about what they have seen online without judgment or instilling shame. Gather data about your child’s experiences and talk to them about how they feel about it. In this, too, you are modeling healthy relationships. Talk to your child both about the mechanics of sex as well as the relational aspect of sexuality. Talk to them about disease prevention. Talk to them about your family’s values about pornography. Talk to them about pornography itself and how that does or does not reflect actual sex in relationships.

Gary Speed 'among four men coached by Barry Bennell who took own life'

One of Barry Bennell's victims has told a court he tried to contact Gary Speed's parents after he hanged himself in 2011.
Gary Speed was one of four men coached by Barry Bennell who went on to take their own lives, a court has heard.

Giving evidence at Liverpool Crown Court on Wednesday, a victim of the former youth team football coach said he tried to contact Speed's parents after the Wales manager hanged himself in 2011, aged 42.

The victim - who Bennell admitted abusing in 1998, when he was jailed for nine years - said he wanted to get in touch with the ex-Premier League midfielder's parents because he had read in the media that they had not been able to get closure as they had no explanation for his death.

"Four people from teams I have played with, with Bennell, have taken their own lives," he told the court.

"Whether they have taken their lives due to Barry solely I don't know but all I know is how it's had an impact on me and how it could impact on other people."

Speaking about his efforts to contact other alleged victims of the 64-year-old, the victim told the court: "When people are breaking down on the phone, on the verge of suicide, when you hear of people who have taken their own lives..."

He said he knew of former youth players who had been left "destitute" and with alcohol problems as a result of the alleged abuse by Bennell - and that there was an ongoing civil case against Manchester City.

But the victim told the court it was about "justice" and not compensation.

"I'm sick to death of this being part of my life and I just want to put it to bed once and for all," he said.

Earlier in the day, the court heard from a complainant who said senior officials at Manchester City had been aware of abuse carried out by Bennell, who scouted players for several junior sides associated with the club.

The victim said he was abused by Bennell more than 100 times during a four-year stint with one of the teams.

He claimed chief scout Ken Barnes, who died in 2010, had known about the abuse.

"I want an apology off Manchester City and anyone else, if possible," he told the court.

Teenager kills two in Kentucky high school shooting-UK

A 15-year-old is in custody charged with murder and attempted murder after two people died and 12 were wounded.

A teenage boy has killed two classmates and wounded at least 12 people after opening fire with a handgun at a Kentucky high school.

The unnamed 15-year-old, who has been arrested, is alleged to have carried out the attack at Marshall County High School in Benton, western Kentucky.

The two students who died were also 15, according to Kentucky governor Matt Bevin.

One of the victims died at the scene and the other after being taken to a hospital.

Another 12 people were shot and five suffered other injuries during Tuesday's shooting, which happened at the start of the school day.

Kentucky's police commissioner, Rick Sanders, said five people were in a critical condition.

Witnesses reported seeing students running away and the school was placed in lockdown.

"The incident began when a 15-year-old student armed with a handgun entered the high school and started shooting," Mr Sanders said.

Police were on the scene within 10 minutes and the suspect was arrested.

Dusty Kornbacher, who owns a shop next to the school, said: "There were people everywhere, hugging and crying, and had their phones out, trying to get in touch with their children and loved ones.

"It's shocking because you never think it's going to happen here. I'm sure that Sandy Hook and other places feel the same way, but yet we're almost jaded because there's so many."

A Healthy Lifestyle is Important in How Diet Works

There are conflicting views on the value of weight-loss diets. Some believe that if individuals have enough willpower to stick with a diet, they can lose an unlimited amount of weight. Others believe that weight loss attempts are rarely successful and weight regain invariably occurs.

There are many questions to ask when evaluating “does dieting work?”

.Do dieters continue to lose weight?
.Does some of the lost weight return?
.Do some dieters gain back more weight than they lost?
In one study, women participating in a weight-loss program reported their goal weight as an average 32% reduction in body weight. After 48 weeks of treatment and an average loss of 35 lbs., 47% of women did not achieve weight loss they associated with success. Thus, what are achievable goals?
Why should I lose weight?
From a medical perspective, preventing metabolic disease, such as hypertension, type 2 diabetes, coronary artery disease, and dementia, is the single most important health issue today. Obesity is associated with all of these common chronic diseases.

Meanwhile, sustained modest weight loss is associated with health improvements:

Decreased risk for type 2 diabetes
Reductions in blood pressure
Improved lipid profiles
Health improvements begin to appear with weight loss of 5-7% of body weight. In 1998, the National Institutes of Health recommended weight loss for persons with a BMI (body mass index) of 30 or more and for persons with a body mass index between 25 and 29.9 with two or more risk factors (i.e. hypertension, type 2 diabetes, abnormal lipids, coronary artery disease). BMI is a person’s weight in kilograms (kg) divided by his or her height in meters squared. BMI is useful in population studies because it is easy to obtain and, in general, is a useful measure of health and longevity. It does not distinguish body fat weight from muscle or bone weight.



What are the results of most diets?
HealthPartners Health Behavior Group in collaboration with Kaiser Permanente’s Care Management Institute completed a review of long-term weight-loss interventions. Weight-loss studies reviewed were categorized into eight types of interventions: advice alone, diet alone, diet and exercise, exercise alone, meal replacements, very-low-energy diets, and weight-loss medications. The purpose of the systematic review was to answer the question raised above: Do diets work?

In studies with a minimum follow-up of 12 months, mean weight loss of approximately 11 lbs. to 18 lbs. (5-9%) was observed during the first six months with a reduced-calorie diet and/or weight-loss medications. However, a weight-loss plateau usually occurred at approximately 6 months. In weight loss studies involving low-calorie diets extending to 48 months, a mean loss of 6 lbs. to 13 lbs. (3-6%) occurred and was maintained. In studies with advice only and exercise alone, groups experienced minimal weight loss. In summary, weight loss interventions utilizing a reduced calorie diet and exercise are associated with the best moderate weight loss outcome at six months.

Weight regain after a diet is your body’s evolved response to starvation. Additionally, your genes are involved in regulating your weight. To compare the effect of genetics versus the environment on the body-mass index, A.J. Stunkard studied samples of identical and fraternal twins, reared apart or reared together in Sweden. Stunkard concluded that genetic influences on body mass index (BMI) were more important than the childhood environments.

“Genetic factors appear to be major determinants of the body mass index in Western society, and they may account for as much as 70% of the variance.”

If the environment has no influence, then external factors such as culture, exercise, and dietary choices have no influence on your BMI. This sounds counterintuitive but this is part of the rationale of those who recommend “no diets”.

The above research is correct; the interpretation, however, is incorrect. The BMI has only two components: height and weight. Height in western societies is approximately 100% determined by genetics. With BMI, 70% is determined by genetics, suggesting that 40% of your weight is determined by genetics. Thus, environment has a major role in determining your weight and diet is very important.



Diet and exercise together
The combination of diet and exercise together will achieve greater weight loss and will allow longer maintenance of weight loss than either intervention alone. Exercise can include many different activities, but, in general, can be divided into two main categories: cardiovascular or endurance exercise and resistance training.



Why do diets fail?
The main reason diets fail is that we are addicted to eating unhealthy food and modern society misinforms us. Sugar can be a substance of abuse and lead to a natural form of addiction. Food addiction occurs because the brain pathways that evolved to respond to natural rewards are also activated by addictive drugs and by sugar. Sugar is noteworthy as a substance that releases opioids and dopamine and has addictive potential. The four components of addiction are:

Bingeing
Withdrawal
Craving
Cross-sensitization
Each can be demonstrated to be present with sugar bingeing. These behaviors are related to the neurochemical changes in the brain that occur with addictive drugs and with sugar.

The obesity epidemic in this country has been aided by the low cost of high glucose-containing carbohydrates. These foods are inexpensive because their production and storage are subsidized by the U.S. government in the Farm Bill. For the past 50 years, U.S. farm policy has been directed towards driving down the price of farmed storable carbohydrates.

At the same time, the cost of growing fruits and vegetables has increased, as has their retail price. Low costs incentivize the food industry to use more of these unhealthy commodities. High-fructose corn syrup is now commonly added to many processed foods.

In summary, the food industry has a huge financial incentive to make food with high-glycemic carbohydrates (sugars). They also use sophisticated marketing tools. “Marketing” is defined as “whatever it takes to make you buy a specific product.” One of the most useful marketing techniques is to aim marketing messages at children, who then nag their parents to buy this or that product; then, the child may continue to buy that product well into adulthood. The food industry spends over $1.6 billion dollars marketing food to children. Most of these products are processed foods high in calories and addicting sugar.

We continue to eat poorly in the belief that “labels do not lie.” Marketing companies have created labels using a selection of words that make us believe we are eating healthy food when, in fact, we are not. “Whole grain” refers to a cereal product containing the germ, endosperm, and bran, and, thus, not refined or man-made. Yet, the stamp “whole grain” from the Whole Grains Council means the product must contain only 8 grams of whole grain per 30 grams of product, and, thus, is mostly not comprised of whole grains. The label stating “Made With Whole Grain” actually may mean that only a tiny amount of whole grain is present. The label “Heart Healthy,” sold by the American Heart Association for use on foods, refers to the fat and salt content of a product but not the sugar content of the product; thus, one real cause of heart disease is not even accounted for. The term “all natural” should be labeled “stay away!” The USDA does not define foods labeled “all natural” as any different than those labeled “natural.” Foods with this labeling are usually not any different than “natural” foods, and may not be regulated because they are not defined by the USDA. Foods labeled “natural,” per the USDA definition, do not contain artificial ingredients or preservatives, and the ingredients are only minimally processed. However, they may contain antibiotics, growth hormones, and other similar chemicals. People often confuse “natural” with “organic” and marketers will continue to do whatever it takes to sell their products.

In summary, diets may fail but a healthy lifestyle always prevails. It takes knowledge to remain healthy. A healthy lifestyle is a path with no end. Knowledge of how your body works is the key to this path. If it is a race, it is the race won by the turtle and not the hare.

Saturday, January 6, 2018

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World's Most Expensive Vodka's Found On Danish Building Site



A stolen bottle of vodka thought to be the world's most expensive at $1.3m has been found empty at a construction site, Says Danish police

The bottle, made from gold and silver and with a diamond encrusted cap, was on loan to a Copenhagen bar which had a collection of vodkas on display.

CCTV released on Wednesday  showed an intruder, who grabbed the Russo-baltique vodka and fled the bar.
The bottle was found unbroken on a construction site in the city.

Mr Ingberg said the bottle had featured in an episode of house of cards as a gift from the Russian president to his US counterpart.


Macron Tell Erdogan: No chance of turkey joining EU.



French president Emmanuel Macronhad told his Turkish counterpart, recap tayyip erdogan, that there is no chance of progress towards turkey joining the European union at present.

At a joint news conference in Paris , Mr macron said there were difference over human rights since turkey's purge following a failed  coup in 2016.

Mr Erdogan said turkey was tired of constantly imploring to join the EU.

He lashed out at a journalist who asked about claims Turkey sent arms to  Syria.

Mr macron said it was time to end the hypocrisy of pretending that there was any prospect of an advance in turkey's membership talks with the EU.

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

Angry youth beat up a police man in Ekiti state (photos)



Angry youth beat up a police man for allegedly shooting an unarmed man in iropora ekiti state.

source:Ekitidefender

International: Paris Hilton got engaged to her longtime boyfriend (PHOTOS) 'wedding bells'



Congrats to the beautiful couples!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tips for weight loss in 2 week!!!!!!!!!!!






You do not need to starve yourself to lose weight. learn and master these 3 simple steps to eat healthy , eat right , and still love your food!! Love what you eat, and still burn fat and lose weight . in order to discover how much calories you should be consuming to lose weight.


  • Don't skip breakfast. ...
  • Eat regular meals. ...
  • Eat plenty of fruit and veg. ...
  • Get more active. ...
  • Drink plenty of water. ...
  • Eat high-fibre foods. ...
  • Read food labels. ...
  • Use a smaller plate....
  • Don't ban food
  • Don't stock junk food
  • Cut down alcohol
  • Plan your meals


Comedian emmaomygod released a comic video for new year resolution...

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Tyson open cannabis farm

 



Mike Tyson broke into the marijuana trade by opening his own cannabis ranch in California.
 The former heavyweight champion,51, has purchased 40 acres of land in California City, a town with a population of just 15,000 people southwest of death valley.
And iron mike plans to take advantage of the state's legalization of recreational marijuana.
 The boxing legend will also have his own school to teach farmers how to grow and develop their strains - called the  'Tyson cultivation school'.